EDUCATING OUR CHILDREN
"...Do not defile yourselves with them" (Lev. 11:43).
The Rama writes (Yoreh Deah 81:7): "The milk of a gentile is like the
milk of a Jewess. Nevertheless, a child should not nurse from a gentile
woman if it is possible to arrange it through a Jewish woman. The milk
of idolators occludes the heart and produces a bad nature.
"The woman who is nursing, even a Jewess, should not be allowed to eat
forbidden things, and certainly the child as well. It will harm him
when he is older."
We have learned (Sanhedrin 27) that children are not punished because
of the sin of the parents if they do not follow in the ways of the
parents. Therefore, why have hundreds of generations been punished by
the decree of death as a consequence of the sin of Adam?
Since the sin of Adam was to eat something that was forbidden, it seems
that the forbidden foodstuff continues to disperse its evil influence
throughout the generations.
(Rabbi Leib Chessman)
The Chatam Sofer was asked the following question by a member of his
congregation who had a son five years old. The boy was mentally
retarded. He had a voice, but he could not speak any recognizable
words. He could hear when someone spoke to him, but he did not know
what was being said to him. In the city of Vienna an institution had
been established to deal with problems like this one, and the father
had been assured that if he would send his son there, the boy's
intelligence would certainly improve, and there was even hope that he
could become a more or less normal person.
However, it was not possible to provide kosher sustenance for the boy
in Vienna. He would not be able to receive enough kosher food, and he
would certainly have to eat non-kosher products. The father asked the
Chatam Sofer if it were permitted to send the boy to the institution,
or not?
The Chatam Sofer answered that it was permitted to send the boy there
until the age of thirteen years and one day. "Nevertheless," the Chatam
Sofer wrote, "the early rabbis have declared that forbidden foods
occlude the heart and produce a bad nature. Therefore, I say that it is
better that the boy should be a moron all his life...."
(Teshuvot Hachatam Sofer, Orach Chaim, 83)