EDUCATING OUR CHILDREN
The following is an excerpt from Midrash Aggaddah (#67) which teaches
about the seriousness of making oaths, and how this might effect our
children in ways that we could never forsee.
There was a very wealthy woman who had ten sons. They were all talmedai
chachamim and studied Torah all day.
One day the woman did not have any bread in the house, and her maid had
gone to full the water buckets. She asked her neighbor to bake some
bread for her because her sons were coming home from the Bet Midrash
and she did not have anything in the house for them to eat. Her
neighbor obliged her request, and entered her house to knead some
dough. While she was doing this two gold coins that had been tied in
her kerchief fell into the dough, but the woman did not notice them.
When she returned to her own home she did not find the coins that were
in her kerchief. She said to her neighbor, "Is this the reward I get
for coming to your house to do you a favor? Why is it that my gold
coins got lost in your home?"
The Lady said, "G-d forbid that your coins were lost in my house."
The two looked for the coins throughout the house, but they did not
find them. The Lady of the house said to her neighbor, "Certainly you
dropped the coins outside."
The neighbor said, "I don't think so. The coins fell in your house."
The Lady said, "If they are in my house, then I will receive an evil
report about my eldest son."
Immediately afterwards a report came to her that her eldest son had
died. Her neighbor said to her, "You see that you spoke falsely. That
is why G-d paid you back by taking your eldest son."
She said, "If what you are saying is true, then may all my children
die!"
And that is what happened. In that same day all her children died and
were buried.
The sages were astonished and their eyes were dimmed. In one day ten
giants of Torah were lost. After the funerals, the bereaved mother
returned to her home. They brought before her bread to restore her
soul. It was the bread that her neighbor had baked.
Rabbi Akiva was there, and he made the blessing, "...The truthful
judge." He broke open the bread, and the two gold coins fell out. Rabbi
Akiva asked about them, and the bereaved mother said, "Master, this
gold was the cause of my sons' demise." Then she told him the whole
story.
Rebbe Akiva said, "Woe to us on the day of judgement! Look what
happened to her because of an oath that was true. How much worse is it
for one who swares falsely."